He has the cutest little round face. He is very expressive, so many faces has little Ollie. Soon, he will be living in my neck of the woods. I can’t wait! The countdown begins for his arrival! Just a couple more days. I hope he likes me.
All four of my kids will live within a days drive! This news brings much joy! I can visit grandkids anytime! I can “borrow” little Ollie for the afternoon! When he is ready, I can have him for sleepovers! All three grandsons will be here during the holiday season!!! I’d better get to work on their little play room!
I’ve always understood that my kids have their own lives. That is as it should be. Since my retirement, I’ve been focusing on developing my own life, finding new interests, keeping busy. Holidays are meant for family BUT as families grow, they have other obligations – other families with whom to share holidays. My husband and I have made a pact that we will always keep our holiday traditions – even if it just happens to be the two of us. Of course, we will be open to traveling for the holidays – since that is easier than others having to pack up kids and bring them to our house! We’ll be ready, suitcase in hand, for that likely eventuality. We’ll also have an open door for the wonderful times when they can return home for a day or a week, at any time of year!
This stage of life is so very different. There are sad moments when I miss seeing the kids and having them under my roof. I still worry about them. I suppose I always will. But there are also moments that feel wonderfully liberating. If I want to sleep in past 6:30am, I can. If I want to spend the entire morning writing or looking at Pinterest, I can. If I want to go to Missoula and just meander around different stores, I can.
In just 16 days, I will have been retired for a year. Finally, I am learning that I don’t have to rush. I can start a project and not have to finish it in a day. I get to CHOOSE what I’m going to do every day. There have been a few days of boredom but not very many. I’m settling in. I’ve realized I do need to maintain a “plan” for my days. If I don’t, I tend to feel useless. I also need to force myself to spend time with friends. It is far too easy for me to just stay at home – I am a homebody – but I also need to feel connected. I’ll need to work on that one.
For my second year of retirement, I will continue to grow and learn – right alongside my children as they grow and learn. This time, none of us are in the bleachers, we’re all out on the field.