When the kids were little, they loved puppies. They wanted to pick them up and hold them. It took a lot of effort for them to learn not to hold them too tight. The puppy would choke or struggle to get free. We had to teach them to just sit still and hold the puppy very gently. The puppy would then relax and welcome the attention of their soft, gentle hands. The puppy may even fall asleep. Sometimes, though, the puppy would want to get down from their lap. This was disturbing to them as they WANTED the puppy to stay with them, they wanted the puppy to WANT to stay with them.
Recently, I’ve been struggling with holding on to the proverbial “puppy” too tightly; trying to make it stay on my lap. It would be so much easier if the silly thing would just cooperate. Sit still, go to sleep, stay here where I can see you and watch over you. I don’t want to have to chase after you.
Wouldn’t it be lovely, if all of our “puppies” could stay in our little circle of control?
Unfortunately, parents get dementia. Their bodies start to give out. No matter how tight we hold them – they will leave our circle. Kids grow up and have kids of their own. They move in different directions and different rates of speed. We all start to get OLD.
We wish and wish that time would slow down. We hope our parents go peacefully, with our blessing and gratitude for a life well lived. We hope that our children stay together and maintain a close relationship with each other. May they always know that there is nothing like a sibling, always and forever – beyond all else. We wish the grandkids stay little forever and, please, let me stay young enough to get down on the floor and play with them….
We have to hold the puppy gently, with kind and loving hands. We have to let the puppy get down from our lap when he wants to – we can’t force him to stay. The puppy needs to run and play and grow and so do we.